Answer

That the death of your relation was so sudden and surprising was much your own fault. You ought to have lived in the daily sense of its vanity and the expectation of your separation from it. You knew it was a dying comfort even in its best estate. And it is no such wonderful thing to see dead what you knew before to be dying. Besides, you heard the bells of death ringing round about you in other families; you frequently saw other parents, husbands, and wives carrying forth their dead. And what were all these but warnings given you to prepare for the same trials?

Surely then it was your own security and carelessness that made this affliction so surprising to you — and you know who is to be blamed for that.